还在为做过的噩梦伤心吗？

亲爱的，该醒过来了。昨夜已经过去，那个梦早就做完，为什么还闭着眼睛呢？ 醒过来，醒过来，张开你的双眼，看看当下这个世界。这是多么光明美丽的白天，你的心又何必守着昨日的黑夜。 过去皆为幻梦，真实是当下的时空。亲爱的，要珍惜每个永不复返的此刻，别让自己迟迟停留在过去的情境之中。

那件事对你来说是一次可怕的撞击，对于其他一切你因此无心打理，但亲爱的，无论如何，日子还要过下去。

情商就像车祸一样，爱得愈深，伤得愈重，用情甚深的你如今奄奄一息，但亲爱的，无论如何，你还是要让自己好起来。 该吃的饭要吃，该睡的觉要睡，该做的事、该读的书、该见的朋友，都不该就此放弃。 虽然你无精打采，虽然你无情无绪，但尽量让自己的生活维持在它该有的轨道上进行。 然后你慢慢会了解，复原的力量就在吃饭穿衣这些日常琐事上，是这些看似微不足道的小事支撑了你，因为它们本来就是生活的基本构架。

所以，亲爱的，好好去生活，你就会好起来的。真的，曾经受的伤，会在生活的枝微末节里，渐渐痊愈。

有没有什么是你无论如何都想追求的？就像荆棘里的玫瑰，明知伸手摘取必然会疼痛流血，但你还是义无反顾，愿意尝试；即使伤痕累累，你还是不肯放弃，依然执意再来一次？‍

亲爱的，所谓理想，就是荆棘里的玫瑰。 前往理想的路上总是荆棘密布，如果只因为感觉困难，就转身摘取另一片草地上的茂盛雏菊，那么它就不能算是一个理想，只是一个曾经的美梦。  

理想之所以是理想，正在于它的不可取代，让你愿意以一生去纵身投入。没有任何一个理想是容易达成的，无论最后有没有摘下那丛荆棘里的玫瑰，但那充满热情与坚持的过程本身，就是你最宝贵的获得了。

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我以为自己一辈子都不会和厨房打交道的，唉。但自从定下了要出国深造的梦想……

印象中，这不是我第一次学烧菜。初次学煎荷包蛋还是14岁时，当时就把油锅烧着了，还忙中出错用冷水去灭，结果差点没让消防队赶来“大开销”一记。第二次学煎蛋大概是2年前，当时用掉了28个蛋，总算勉强过关。但是这一次，也许是真的知道了厉害关系，我学烧菜的进步神速的我们全家都不相信。至于我的朋友，他们觉得，我不过是在玩儿，三分钟热度。

不管怎么说，如今我正式学会三个菜，一个“香菜素鸡”是用百度搜索出来的方法做的，另一个丝瓜油面筋是跟我崇拜的大叔学着做的，后来经过改良，已经颇为象样。最痛苦是那道“芒果大虾沙律”，昔日有位追求我的小DD曾为讨好我做过，结果就此爱上了那个味道，如今他人已逝，自己动手才知道做起来不易。我们家隔壁家乐福里的虾们为此一斤一斤的消失在我家的厨房里！

最初我使用死虾，也就是冷冻虾，唉，味道真的不怎样。后来经过大叔点拨，觉得沙律大虾的最佳诀窍其实还是应该用水先把虾们烫熟，然后再去壳开片等等，那样弄出来的虾无比鲜嫩。

总之，我大概花了2周时间，已经能够做出这样三道菜。当然最好别去看我做完菜之后的厨房，全是乱糟糟的菜末和羹汁，地下也都是滑不溜丢的，呵呵。在这里，我想说说自己学会做菜之后的心得：

第一条 只要熟了都是菜

做菜的最高境界大概就是把它弄熟。放油炒也行，用水煮也成。反正千方百计弄熟之后，乱扔一堆盐啊味精之类的调味品，就能吃了。

第二条 吃蛋别管母鸡啥样

如果你和我一样，熟悉了做菜的全过程，保不定也会吃下去。很多时候，我都懒得换抹布，很多时候，我都干脆用手指，很多时候……算了，不说了。眼不见为净。用显微镜去看生活，谁都会活不下去。

第三条 没有会不会，只有肯不肯

连我这样的笨鸟都能学会做菜，若再有谁说自己学不会，一定是扯淡。这个世界上，没有会不会的问题，只有肯不肯的心啊！

经过第一次考试的失败，我突然觉得自己开窍了。所以第二次考试我再练车，连小师傅也夸我，说比原来好多了。不过也只是练了两三个下午吧，每次1个多小时，就又要考试了。考试前，师傅找我密谈，他说，如果这次再考不出，就要我转到CA（化名）驾校去，传说中这是一个只要给钱就能过关的驾校，当然还得再花一笔钱。而我现在所在的JL（化名）驾校，就比较难混了。

于是我问师傅，我说“师傅，你觉得我到底是练习太少，还是人比较笨，才会导致考不出来？”结果师傅说，“绝对是你人笨，你练的也不少了。”说真的，被师傅这么说，我挺难过的。在他看来，我基本上就是只能给钱过关的那种，或许我真的是吧。

到了晚上，师傅派另一个师傅给我打电话。说要交过关费，交了到时候考场里会有人给我喊号子。我问交多少，他说200元。我想想不算多，就答应了。可到了晚上9点，师傅又给我来电话，说得交500块，百分百过关，不过不收费。

说真的，我想拒绝。但想想万一没考出来，转学还得再交一大笔钱。何况一旦转学，就又要从交规开始重新考试，太费时间了。所以还是勉强答应了。那时我刚拿了一个发布会给的红包，做情感编辑，发布会是很少很少的，一年都没几回。这次好不容易拿到一个，还是同事让给我去的，结果这么一折腾，等于又没了。

第二天，我一早就到了练车的地方，又开了两把，情况还算凑合。过了一会，师傅就送我们到了考场，然后等了有好几个小时吧，都吃完午饭了，才突然通知我去领号。我估计是那时候容易作弊的缘故。接着是例行的那套，照相啥的，有个瘦小的男孩过来和我说，一会考的时候会有人喊号的，如果没有，就别考，一直等着。我说，哦。

终于轮到我了。是在考场的最后一个考位。果然有个人在那里。其实直到那时候我心里都满纠结的。但等我上了车开始考试之后，我才觉得那500块花的真不冤枉。因为那是下雨天！我完全看不见反光镜里的标杆。镜子一片模糊，连地上的那条蓝线也完全不见踪影（估计给雨冲掉了）。幸亏有那人在旁边给我叫号子！

总之，我算一次就过关了。下车的时候感觉好象做梦一样。其实我真的很想自己考一次的。第二次再让他喊号子好了。我想靠自己的能力过关。不过等到了签名的地方，就看到有两个人在那里和考官吵架。原来他们也是看不见标杆，结果挂了。其中有个女的，她想下车擦一下反光镜，结果一推门就挂掉了。这是违规动作。另一个想靠猜测，结果也碰杆了。我想想，自己还算幸运的吧。虽然这是花钱买来的幸运。

下一次，再碰到雨天考试，我想我会带块抹布去。先把反光镜里里外外擦个干净再上车考试。其实，与其让我们付500块，还不如告诉我们这点呢，唉。

很久没有写学车日志了。原因是天气越来越冷，我去练习的次数简直屈指可数，不管师傅软磨硬泡，我每周能去一次都算是不错。唉，结果是2个月没去外加2次缺考后，被师傅拽去硬练了1天外加1次模拟考后直接拖去考试，失败，真是一点都不意外！

不过，从模拟考到正式考试，我一共有开过6次。模拟考4次，正式考试2次。我觉得这6次对我来说，应该算是真正的“入门之旅”。之前倒车，完全是死记硬背，一点点小意外，就会导致失败。但这6次的失败经历，才让我明白车子遇到各种状况时，究竟应该怎么调整方向盘。话说模拟考的时候，我第一次开到一半就忘记接下来该怎么做了；第二次熄火太多，直接挂掉；第三次是唯一“合格”的一次，因为教练在场外不停对着我“喊号子”，而且那一次运气好，不需要做“121”的移位；第四次教练停止喊号子想让我自己试试看，结果我一慌倒得太猛，直接屁股撞后杆，失败！

正式考试那天，我的运气也很背。别人的车都好好停在车位上，只有我的跑道上，前面那位倒霉考生估计考一半就挂掉了，只见车门大开，车居然停在中间一个莫名其妙的位置上。我左右环顾，上午场都快结束了，根本没见到一个工作人员，喇叭里的女人不停催我快点上车。结果我只好勉强运用我全部的脑力，将车勉强开到了正常位置上。这个时候我几近虚脱，再开始倒车考试，又碰到“121”移位，我稍微记错了一步，结果电子监测以“不按规定路线行驶”把我挂掉了。紧接着是第2次，这个时候我已经完全没信心了，大概是头一次与粗杆的位置就没对好，于是倒过了头、最后直接以车屁股撞杆结束这个回合。

走出考场，我只觉得全部的人都在用一种羞耻的眼光看着我，真TMD的丢人！而且还不能随便走，得跑去在考试结果上签字，真是太不人道了嘛。考出来签字也就算了，考不出还签，唉！这次考试唯一的收获是遇到一位脾气超好的大帅哥同考，结果他当然是稳稳当当的过了关，然后我一打听，啧啧，还是80后的小P孩呢，都已经是孩子他爸了。无语的我在食堂喝了碗排骨面后独自走人了！

衣服，一般我会用clothes来总称。这个词语看起来简单，读起来则很麻烦。音标写作[klɔθs] ，但事实上后面θs得连读成一个音才行。

先来说下衣服的分类。以前在学校学到的，除了skirt 是短裙，shirt 是衬衫以外，就是coat 和T-shirt 比较常用了。但在生活中，我发现太多太多的衣服不知道怎么说了。比如羽绒服，比如毛衣，还有女人的连裤袜，男人的夹克之类的。所以我很认真的请教了一次老外，关于衣服的说法。以下是整理的内容：

先来学习羽绒服。在老外的词典里，没有羽绒服的专有名词。一般就用coat加前缀来表示。我在字典上查了，羽绒服叫down coat，不过我的语言伙伴alex告诉我，他们会直接用warm coat。coat的原来意思是大夹克，当然你也可以用jacket。比如冬天男人就会穿一些比较厚重的jacket，未必是羽绒的。

然后是毛衣，一般的叫法是sweater，这个满有意思的，因为sweat是汗的意思，加了er变成毛衣，倒是很好理解。大概就是穿了会出汗的衣服吧？不过我在以前的英语伙伴——一位老太太那里还听过一个说法：jersey，意思也是毛线衫。我查了很多字典，貌似针织的衣服就可以这么说。反正大家知道下就可以了。

接下来是围巾和手套。这个比较简单，围巾叫scarf，手套叫glove。只有一点要注意，冬天的那种羊毛大围巾，不能叫scarf，虽然你这么说别人也懂。但一般含有woolen成分的围巾，要叫pashmina。我查了下，确切的意思是披肩。

接下来说说衣服的统称。一般我比较常用到的就是dress和suit。但感觉上是很正装的。前者比较生活化，比如我去参加个婚礼，我会穿dress。后者比较商业化，比如我上班，就是穿suit。当然也可以用dress，看场合了。不过要说明哦，男人应该不会用dress这个词，suit嘛，老外都是西装革履的，肯定没错的。

然后还要介绍一些特殊的衣服说法。看过，有印象，知道就行了。

1 jumper 连身衣（大部分时间无袖）注：袖子 sleeve（s）
有趣的是，这是美国人的说法，在英国人和加拿大人眼里，jumper就是厚的衣服，类似厚毛衣，厚衣服。

2 hoodie 连帽衫 zip-up hoodie 有拉链的连帽衫

3 track suit 田径服，运动服（一般是运动套装）

最后补充2个关于袜子的词。socks和stocking，前者是短袜，后者是连裤袜。哦，还有jeans，这个不用说了吧，牛仔裤是也。

因为和老太的练习停了2周，所以到现在才把第4个章节的问题整理出来。虽然说旅游是我非常乐于去谈的一个话题，但真的准备起来，也不轻松呢。

1）What do you do in your holidays?

I like to travel in my holidays. I have been to a lot of places in China and abroad, such as Beijing, Tibet, London, Eygpt and Australia. Sometimes I feel tired, so I just stay at home and sleep all day.

2) Do you think holidays are becoming more and more important?

Yes, I think so. When I was a child, people worked from Monday to Saturday. After several years, people started working 5 days a week, resting on Saturdays and Sundays. Within the last 5 years, people had annual leave from 5 to 15 days not including weekends. I think more relaxation can let people do their work better. I hope we will have more and more holidays in the future.

3) Do you like to travel in your holidays or free time?

I like both. If it's a long holiday, I love to travel with friends. But sometimes all the cities are full of people, and everything in the tourist attactions is more expensive than on ordinary days. I also love to travel in my free time because of I am a freelancer. I can arrange my spare time by myself. Travel outside the holidays is cheaper than the public holidays, though it's hard to find a parterner to travel with.

4) What kind of places do you like to travel to?

I like beaches very much. Walking through the beaches is good for my health and relaxing. I also like seafood very much, such as crabs, lobsters, fish and shrimps. The price near the sea is cheaper than inland.

5) Have you ever been to the seaside?

Of course. I have been to Hai Nan, Da Lian, Qing Island. I think the beaches of Hai Nan are the most beautiful in China. I also have been to the Phillipines, Thailand and Eygpt. There are lots of beautiful beaches there. I hope I can build my wedding party on the beaches if possible.

6) Why do some people take their holidays at the seaside?

Because city life makes people tired and they want a place to relax both head and body. You can lie in the sunshine and do nothing all day. Stop thinking, Stop action, just be a lazy person and take it easy.

7) Do you want to live near the sea?

No, I only want to spend my holidays there. But I hope I can have a small house near the sea. Because my job is writing, I need fresh air to clean my head and get more ideas. I would still live in the cities, though, because it is more convenient.

和老外交流时，由于我听力不太好，反应慢，经常需要对方再来一遍。在中学里，我们只会用pardon？来表达，后来美剧看多了，我会用what？但慢慢我才知道这么说是非常不礼貌的。所以现在我找到一些有用的句子用来做此类型的发问（询问含义）。这些句子都很简单，但是要用的很习惯、很自然，熟练到一定程度，我还需要多练习。不过anyway，这些太……常用了。

Sorry?
What did you say?
What does that mean?
What do you mean?
What did you say this is?
Pardon?
Could you repeat that?
Could you say that again please?

抱歉？你说什么？
这是什么意思？
你的意思是什么？
你说这是什么？
你能重复一次吗？
请你再说一次，好吗？

Emi: Sorry? What did you say?
Dr.: Gesundheit!
Emi: What does that mean?
Dr.: Good health.
Emi: How do you spell it?
Dr.: G-E-S-U-N-D-H-E-I-T.
Emi: How did you pronounce it again?
Dr.: Gesundheit.

最近一直都在做“交换语言”的约会。最初是个英国小伙子，不过我是在dating的栏目里找到他的，所以他大约教了我2次后，我帮他介绍了一个女朋友，之后他就开始“没时间”了。一度令我很失落。我以为，至少他应该感谢我，多教我几次的呢。不过anyway，他有了中国女朋友，就有人教他中文了，这个exchange就做不成了。或许下次我不会再这么“热心”了。

英国小伙子推荐了一个南非老太太给我，说老太太严格来说也不对，对方大概50出头吧，是个白人。老太太明显比小伙子要认真多了，毕竟，她在这里也很无聊。孩子大了，也不需要谈什么恋爱，又不熟悉上海，所以最初，我们的exchange做的很好。但糟糕的是，天开始变冷了，而老太太又要学太极、又要学推拿，时间明显不够。于是如今我已经2周没见到她了，而且她告诉我，她年底会离开这里。真的不是个好消息。

这之后，我开始刻意的去寻找language parterner，我找到一两个还算OK的网站，开始我的“打游击”练英文的生涯。今天我去见了个25岁的菲律宾加拿大人。对方很明显是真的为了学习英文，2个小时，他教我一个小时，我教他一个小时，不过我自己觉得，我比他专业多了。毕竟，他还年轻，也没有教师经验。而小伙子和老太太本来就是英语教师，所以教起来真的很不错。sigh~

下周我还会再见一个24岁的小伙子，还不清楚是哪里人。反正就是“打游击”了，有的练英文就算了。这些人也不会很固定，菲律宾小伙子说，他下周会搬到home stay去，也就是他免费住人家的房子，人家家里有个在上大学的孩子，他每周教他5小时英文。听起来，菲律宾人明显占了便宜，想想上海的房价吧！不过，估计是父母为孩子做的牺牲，呵呵，中国的父母为了孩子，还有什么不能做的。总之我是很无语了。

最近明显跟不上进度了，几乎每课都有超过50个新单词要掌握，到现在已经积累太多，能浏览一遍就觉得挺累，而且也希望自己是真的掌握这些单词，不仅是背出来那么简单。如果不知道怎么用，不会造句，那么背出来还是会遗忘的。但这样一来，完全没有时间把整理出来的句子同答案完整的背一遍。这个周三又要下一个话题，这样就落后了2课啦，真是急人呢。

1）What part of your day do you like best?

I like late night. I am a journalist and used to working at night. No one else in the house is awake yet. Nobody will call me and interrupt my train of thought. That's my quiet time, and write as late as I can.

2) What is the busiest of part of the day for you?

From about 2 o'clock to 10 o'clock. I am used to getting up at noon. After brunch, a lot of people call me because all my friends and colleagues know my schedule. Then I go out and interview 2-3 people for my columns. Sometimes, I am too busy to eat supper.

3) When do you have free time?

I have free time on Monday. Because I work freelance, I have to work on weekends. The newspaper is usually published on Monday, so I only have free time that day.

4) What's your favorite way to relax?

I usually watch science fiction movies. This kind of movie is full of imagination and creative power and makes me forget about my work and reduces the pressure of reality.

5) Do you do things in your leisure time with friends or family?

Mostly with my friends. I often go out to have dinner or go shopping with my friends. Sometimes we just talk and talk, even on the internet. We share our life experience and have fun.

6) Do you have any hobbies or interests?

I have a lot of hobbies. I like reading science-fiction, watching horror movies, taking photos when travelling, and so on. I am interested in new things that can suprised me or give me some passion. I hope I can live a different life from ordinary people.

7) How do you (usually) spend the weekend?

I usually interview people on the weekend. Being a journalist, my work is to interview people and get their stories. But most people work from Monday to Friday and have free time on the weekend. That is why I work at that time.

8) Which do you prefer, Saturday or Sunday?

I prefer Saturday, because most of my friends have time to meet me. We can go out and have a drink in the bars, then stay out late. They don't have to work and get up early the next day.

9）Are weekends important for you?

Not really. I don't have to work from Monday to Friday like others, but sometimes I have to work at weekends. To me, weekends are like any other day.

10) Should people be paid over time for working at the weekend?

Definitely. Work more and get more. The weekend is your own private time, people need time to have a rest. I think the company should pay for extra time at the weekend.

11）Do you like shopping?

I like shopping very much. When I travel abroad, I like to find something special and different from other countries. Sometimes I am lazy and buy everyday things from the internet. But it still wastes a lot of time to view the web and choose the right merchandise.

12) Are there many shops near where you live?

Yes, there are 2 shopping malls and a lot of 24 hours convenience stores. I can find anything I want in the area where I live, but the rents are rising, so I may have to move to an other district in the future.

13) Who usually does the shopping in your home?

My mother does the shopping. She is retired and has enough time to shop. She likes to go to the supermarket and buy something cheap but maybe of no use. And she also likes shopping by mail. They mail the catalog to her everyweek and she always orders lots of products from that.

14) Do you have a regular time to go shopping?

No, I don't. I am a journalist and I have lots of interviews everyweek. I don't know which times I will be free, so it depends on that.

15) What things do you usually buy when you go shopping?

I like to buy clothes when I go shopping. I think women like to wear all kinds of clothes and make themselves beautiful. Of course sometimes I buy things I will never wear. Eventually I will put them on Ebay and sell them maybe at half prize.

16) Do you prefer shopping in small shops or big supermarkets and department stores？

I prefer shopping in big supermarkets. I like walking in the supermarket and looking over all the goods they have. If I find something new or interesting, I wil buy it though it's not on my shopping list.