"Daniel," the guy I've been seeing for two years, is a married man. I didn't know it until we'd been seeing each other for eight months. We've been living together ever since. I love him with all my heart, but I'm getting sick and tired of being the "other woman."

Daniel is still supporting his wife, a meth addict, because he's worried she will end up on the street. Other than her phone calls and harassment, we are basically happy, but I want more from him. I want to be his wife. I want to have a future with him, but he's not moving toward divorce. He says it's because his wife has property that belongs to him.

Daniel tells me he'd be lost without me, but I can't deal with much more of this. Any advice? － In Love and Hurting

Dear In Love:

Daniel should not leave things in limbo. He needs to talk to a lawyer about a legal separation so he can continue to provide for his wife while working out the details of a divorce. If he is unwilling to proceed, it means he either values this disputed property more than his relationship with you, or he has no intention of changing his marital status, in which case, please get out of this mess while you can.

to be sick and tired of   厌倦；受够

meth (n.)   甲基安非他命（methamphetamine的简称）

harassment (n.)   骚扰；侵扰

property (n.)   财产；所有物

in limbo   悬而未决；摇摆不定

separation (n.)   分离；离别

to work out   解决；处理

disputed (adj.)   争议的

intention (n.)   意图；意向